Living Beyond the False Self

Underneath all of our coverups, avoidances and compensations we all have secret negative beliefs about ourselves. These beliefs may seem invisible because they are so innately grounded into us as we developed them around the age of two. This core pain is coined as the “narcissistic wound” which develops when we realize we are separate from the unconditional love and security of our parents. Therefore we innately establish a “false core” or a reason to cope with the emotional damage. The reasons or assumptions can look like…”I am serparate because there  is something wrong with me…I have no value…I am inadequite…I cannot do…I am powerless…”. On the other side of this “false core” we also develop a “false self” which compensates for this wound by telling ourselves, “I HAVE to prove that I am perfect, that I can do it, that I am powerful, that I am worthy…”. Now these statements may seem like a positive, but they are only feeding our false self more and more and simply distracting ourselves for the root cause of this tug-a-war. To give you an example this is my core representation of my false-core and false-self…

False-core False-self Example

A great way to bring your unconscious “false core” or “voice of judgement” to your conscious awareness is to draw it!…This is an important exercise to realize that your voice of judgment comes from “without” and is NOT you. Take a moment to sit and think about what your voice of judgement is saying to you. Observe it, catch it in the moment, name it, and LET IT GO.taming-your-gremlin-mindmap

The purpose of this exercise is to understand your voice of judgment so you can acknowledge when it arises and eventually LIVE BEYOND IT. This part of the self in called “false” for a reason. It is a the limited part of the ego or “I”. IN the True Self there is no “I”, we just ARE. There is no way completely “heal” this core pain except for understanding that it comes from “without” us and if we live beyond this limited self we can understand that we still are and will always be CONNECTED TO THE ONE SUBSTANCE further protected by the unconditional love of the universe. Each of us are uniquely important, but there is no need to prove that. To reach our fullest potential we just “have” to BE.


Inspiration for this blog came from Steven Wolinsky’s III Volume series: The Way of the Human which goes into detail about his theory of quantum psychology and how to live beyond this limited self and reach our fullest human potential.


Creative Insight Journey

Ever ask the questions “who am I”, and “what is my purpose?” First off, thank yourself for asking those questions, and continue to ponder your search for meaning in this life because we are always growing and evolving so our focuses will change as well. My long time family friend and practically my second mom, Kim Herrlein has always been inspired by these questions in the ups and downs in her life and has made the best of her quest by fulfilling her purpose to help others find their own “way of life” through instructing the Creative Insight Courses.


“My teacher, Jennifer Grace, the headliner of this wonderful program first introduced the power of intentions by having us focus on breakthroughs we wish to see in our life. She then told us to attach a feeling to the intention being completed and work backwards to achieve this personal goal. My breakthrough by teaching theses classes is, ‘I feel fulfilled now that I am using video to share these tools of insightfulness with young adults’.” ~Kim Herrlein

The Creative Insight Journey was originally developed in the in MBA program at Stanford University by Dr. Michael Rayray-michael-l who observed a shocking average of young adults who did not quite have a sense of self and authenticity in the realm of the creativity and open-mindedness about their ideas. This program has revolutionized the art and success and is now used as transformational journey of self-exploration that has spread across the country serving people from the comfort of their homes while pushing their emotional and physcial boundaries to reconnect with their deepest values and goals. 

“In this 8 week course you will be unraveled, given tools to apply to your reconstruction, and then you will be put back together as a new you, with new intentions, and a new knowledge of answering your own questions by finding what works for you.”

In our recent talk Kim was bewildered on that fact that, “Statistically America is one of the most educated and privileged societies, yet it has some of the highest rates of depression and suicide among young adults and teens…we are missing something…it is a disconnect with the self. Currently were are diagnosing people with some sort of label, then giving them some sort of substance, instead of sharing tools with people that can help them balance their whole self from within…”  I find it to be our weakest link that as a society we don’t take care of the “Self”. We search for external goals brought by external expectations and further seek for healing from external aids. This program and the overall shift in self-awareness is a revolution that brings back the holistic approach to medicine of understanding the importance of the mind and body connection.

“You make the choices in your life. Always assess where your life is at in all aspects and ask, ‘is this where I want to be?’, and if not, ‘how can I change it’, if so, ‘how can I maintain it?’. Create the life you want for you and everything will fall into place.”