Living Beyond the False Self

Underneath all of our coverups, avoidances and compensations we all have secret negative beliefs about ourselves. These beliefs may seem invisible because they are so innately grounded into us as we developed them around the age of two. This core pain is coined as the “narcissistic wound” which develops when we realize we are separate from the unconditional love and security of our parents. Therefore we innately establish a “false core” or a reason to cope with the emotional damage. The reasons or assumptions can look like…”I am serparate because there  is something wrong with me…I have no value…I am inadequite…I cannot do…I am powerless…”. On the other side of this “false core” we also develop a “false self” which compensates for this wound by telling ourselves, “I HAVE to prove that I am perfect, that I can do it, that I am powerful, that I am worthy…”. Now these statements may seem like a positive, but they are only feeding our false self more and more and simply distracting ourselves for the root cause of this tug-a-war. To give you an example this is my core representation of my false-core and false-self…

False-core False-self Example

A great way to bring your unconscious “false core” or “voice of judgement” to your conscious awareness is to draw it!…This is an important exercise to realize that your voice of judgment comes from “without” and is NOT you. Take a moment to sit and think about what your voice of judgement is saying to you. Observe it, catch it in the moment, name it, and LET IT GO.taming-your-gremlin-mindmap

The purpose of this exercise is to understand your voice of judgment so you can acknowledge when it arises and eventually LIVE BEYOND IT. This part of the self in called “false” for a reason. It is a the limited part of the ego or “I”. IN the True Self there is no “I”, we just ARE. There is no way completely “heal” this core pain except for understanding that it comes from “without” us and if we live beyond this limited self we can understand that we still are and will always be CONNECTED TO THE ONE SUBSTANCE further protected by the unconditional love of the universe. Each of us are uniquely important, but there is no need to prove that. To reach our fullest potential we just “have” to BE.


Inspiration for this blog came from Steven Wolinsky’s III Volume series: The Way of the Human which goes into detail about his theory of quantum psychology and how to live beyond this limited self and reach our fullest human potential.


Creative Insight Journey

Ever ask the questions “who am I”, and “what is my purpose?” First off, thank yourself for asking those questions, and continue to ponder your search for meaning in this life because we are always growing and evolving so our focuses will change as well. My long time family friend and practically my second mom, Kim Herrlein has always been inspired by these questions in the ups and downs in her life and has made the best of her quest by fulfilling her purpose to help others find their own “way of life” through instructing the Creative Insight Courses.


“My teacher, Jennifer Grace, the headliner of this wonderful program first introduced the power of intentions by having us focus on breakthroughs we wish to see in our life. She then told us to attach a feeling to the intention being completed and work backwards to achieve this personal goal. My breakthrough by teaching theses classes is, ‘I feel fulfilled now that I am using video to share these tools of insightfulness with young adults’.” ~Kim Herrlein

The Creative Insight Journey was originally developed in the in MBA program at Stanford University by Dr. Michael Rayray-michael-l who observed a shocking average of young adults who did not quite have a sense of self and authenticity in the realm of the creativity and open-mindedness about their ideas. This program has revolutionized the art and success and is now used as transformational journey of self-exploration that has spread across the country serving people from the comfort of their homes while pushing their emotional and physcial boundaries to reconnect with their deepest values and goals. 

“In this 8 week course you will be unraveled, given tools to apply to your reconstruction, and then you will be put back together as a new you, with new intentions, and a new knowledge of answering your own questions by finding what works for you.”

In our recent talk Kim was bewildered on that fact that, “Statistically America is one of the most educated and privileged societies, yet it has some of the highest rates of depression and suicide among young adults and teens…we are missing something…it is a disconnect with the self. Currently were are diagnosing people with some sort of label, then giving them some sort of substance, instead of sharing tools with people that can help them balance their whole self from within…”  I find it to be our weakest link that as a society we don’t take care of the “Self”. We search for external goals brought by external expectations and further seek for healing from external aids. This program and the overall shift in self-awareness is a revolution that brings back the holistic approach to medicine of understanding the importance of the mind and body connection.

“You make the choices in your life. Always assess where your life is at in all aspects and ask, ‘is this where I want to be?’, and if not, ‘how can I change it’, if so, ‘how can I maintain it?’. Create the life you want for you and everything will fall into place.”

Music as Medicine

This weekend I had the honor of attending a weekend workshop with Music Therapist and Yoga teacher, Craig Cenedy. Craig has devoted his passion and talent for music by giving back to his community through offering various education and self-exploration programs in music therapy and other wellness practices. His Community Inspiration Center, Muse for Life, focuses on connecting to the self through music and movement. Furthermore, this center is based on the connection to nature and the universe. He explains the latin root of Uni-verse which translates to One-song; meaning that we are all interconnected between the energy and movement of each thought and action which creates various frequencies, culminating to the melody of existence that ultimately searches to obtain harmony.

Over his weekend seminar we explored the different populations music therapy serves and certain exercises that correspond to each treatment assessment and plan. With a background in Kundalini yoga and an intensive study in Shamanism, Craig emphasized the point in time where medicine diverged from a holistic approach of including the whole self (mind, body, spirit) in the treatment of disease to an analytical, mechanistic approach of diagnosing and treating separate parts of the self mainly through the aid external sources. This divergence came about in the time of Aristotle and his descriptive analysis of arithmetic which moved away from the previous belief of the Pythagorean view and Platonic forms which describe math and music as divine and integrated. Today, Western’s medical approach is still an individual mechanistic method and unfortunately has lost the belief the we have the capability to heal ourselves, so instead we rely on external factors to cover up our pains instead of healing them at their root cause. In his practice Craig strives to bring awareness to the power of the self through intention and TUNING in to personal and collective issues. After being educated on the wide application of music therapy, I too beleive that it is a great way to bring a person to the here and now and create and intergrated balance to our mind, body and spirit helping us reach harmony within our intrapersonal selves and our intrapersonal connections to the world around us.


Self View

The true journey to the Self begins once we ask the question “who am I?”, for this sparks a lifetime of curiosities that leads to experiences in which we begin to define how we carry ourselves and respond to the world around us. Around the age of two, children form the ability to identify themselves from their surroundings giving the first sense of self. During the stage of autonomy children begin to understand that they have the power to make their own choices that the struggle of will comes into play. Additionally, the development of language allows us to have a conception of past, present and future. At a young age we learn to express ourselves through grammar instead of purely absorbing and reacting to our environment. As we reach adolescence the real struggle commences as other various physical, mental and emotional aspects of the self blossom. We start to define ourselves sexually, and learn how to intimately share our energy with others.

Then the next big question arises, “what do I want to do with my life?” Well as I see it this is the most beautiful part of self-discovery. This is a time where we become self-sustaining, responsible, aware adults that are “contributing members of society”. This may sound rigid and boring, but to me being adult means having a self-defintion that is built on personal laws and values that govern how you live and what motivates you to live this life. I believe in an exitential self view that describes, life has no meaning until you give it meaning. In other words, YOU are the writer of your own story, YOU control how to respond to this world, and only YOU are in charge of defining who you are!

So, who are you?…